Depressin' me !! Don't Read !!!

When you leave college, you feel like you are on top of the world. Your future seems so bright, like you imagined. You are about to bring the "change" in the world that you were aspirin' for, long back. But soon reality hits you, and you realize that world is a nightmare and you stand nowhere. Your dreams are only dreams until you work hard, and even if you work hard, luck should favour you. 

If there's one thing i wanted so bad, this year, was a stable much earnin' job, I wanted to get settled, and by settled i mean "financially independent". But as they say and it holds true "man proposes God disposes". I turned out to be a loser, the biggest disappointment in my family,"the black sheep" should i say. Still my family loves me, i wonder why :( I don't remember the last time i made my parents proud of me.

It hurts you know, bein' a failure. May be i shouldn't have kept my hopes high, i shouldn't have worked so hard to get it in the first place. My confidence was on cloud 9 before it all came crashin' down and hit the ground pretty hard.

i miss my Grandfather's wise words, i need 'em so badly right now !!! i will keep my head high, i will strive again, i will beat the odds, i will survive !!! with this note i say goodbye till i find somethin' inspirin' to write !!!! :)

Working Women vs. Housewives, an unavoidable debate !!!

Should women be working or stay at home? Always the kind of debate i try to avoid for so many reasons, firstly i respect both, so if i say anything in favour of working women, it would go against the non working and secondly i am not able put my word across in a better agreeable way, so to some it doesn't matter what i say or do. 

It always starts with "Why do you want to be independent(financially)"? and i am always like "Why not? Did i pursue my higher qualifications just to be at home. Did my parents just raise me to get married and have kids? Wouldn't it be a huge waste of the investment made by my parents on my education? Could i not be a helping hand like the "son"? If that was the case i shouldn't have studied so much, should have studied till 12th and get married as soon as school was over. Somebody should've warned me that i have to study well but not get my hopes high, be an aimless person and don't dream too much. Because in the end you are going to get married and be a housewife. You don't need computers to be a good housewife, you need to be a little bit educated, have cooking skills, and other things. ".

I conducted a survey on whatsapp and i asked some of my friends the same question. Mostly, people said they would prefer working, as their mother or aunties have been working and and they don't think working moms are careless or irresponsible. On the other hand, people whose mother or aunts are housewives supported housewives. This mindset that housewives are better than working woman, and can build a home or a child's future in better way is actually the outcome of how things are from their side.

A housewife's life is difficult, I agree, though she enjoys the luxuries of being at home, while as a working woman has to face many challenges. A housewife can look after her family in a more effective way. She is there 24/7 for her kids and family. She gets to decorate and redecorate her house, she takes up new hobbies and learns new skills. And then there are voluntary housewives and forced housewives, voluntary housewives: mostly not educated or less educated, rarely high qualified. Forced housewives: who want to work but can't, sometimes because her family/husband won't allow, and sometimes because she didn't get a good job.

A working woman on the other hand is independent, not a liability, has a sense of security and self-respect (some consider that ego). Moreover, she has to balance her work at office and at home, so much hard-work and struggle that she has to do to reach the top. To be the best mom for her kids,  a good wife to her husband and a good daughter-in-law, at the same time maintaining her professional career. Its amazing to see how she can do everything without complaining. How do i know this, my mom is a working lady too. She has done her best to maintain the balance and we grew up well. She took care of everything we wanted and she is always there whenever we need her. She taught us to be a good human and do the right thing. She is my inspiration and i am so proud of her. 

Some say kids of working women don't get the right kind of care, say their house isn't perfect(but i turned out to be okay i think, right?;). Actually it all depends on how well a girl has been groomed, a housewife can make or break a home and so can a working lady. Therefore, don't think what people say, as sometimes you'll be criticized, sometimes praised and sometimes hated for what you do, good or bad deeds, people are always going to talk. At the end of the day you don't have to be answerable to anyone but Almighty so follow your heart, live your dreams and do the right things. And it doesn't matter if she is a housewife or a working lady, both are good homemaker in their own ways. #Respect for both!!! 

When your workplace is more fun than your work !!!

My first ever job started in December 2012, i was a bit nervous and enthusiasm was at its peak !!! Since i was the only girl there at first, i didn't talk to my colleagues much. It was kind of lonely but i liked it still, may be professional life is supposed to be humorless afterall. Although, there were some known faces already working there, one was a funny(friendly) face and another a serious face, both from my college, whom i didn't talk to much during my college days. Within weeks time i got lectures from my boss, may be i still wasn't getting used to that environment. I felt bad and disheartened at first but then like everything falls back to their place, my professional life did too. Once i got a hold of it i loved my work esp. the web designing. One of my friends also got recruited there and just 2 weeks after, she joined and it was the best day so far. I felt relieved as there was someone i could talk to now, like truly. Ultimately we came to know our colleagues and that they were fun to work with. Life was good but turned out better when another friend joined. We had joy, we had fun, we talked, we worked (sincerely) and we laughed at stupid lil' things. Colleagues became work friends. Always supportive and helpful, who knew work place could be so lively and enjoyable.

Each of my work friend has a unique quality, and without each that place would become boring(no offense). Although I don't know if they'll allow me to write their original names, so i'm gonna write the names of countries as their aliases instead. Malaysian(guy), the most entertaining and the most hilarious friend. I didn't like him during my college days, thought he was arrogant, always makes fun of other people. But as i got to know him better, he is really good at heart and always trying to make others smile or laugh their lungs out :P. Pakistani(guy), the most selflessly helpful and the most supportive person i've ever met. I feel he is sort of at the wrong place right now with so much knowledge and brains he has got and did i mention he also teases like an annoying lil' brother(right uncle;). Egyptian(gal), really calm and cool girl, with a good sense of humor plus her dancing at awkward moments or sometimes before the boss, its so funny :D just gets a bit emotional, but without emotions you can't be human, right !?! Emiratis(gal), she was my friend before and she is my friend still, humble and caring, way too much caring sometimes. These days she is lost in her thoughts(or should i say lost in her cellphone), was engaged few weeks back(you know;). All these plus the other people, like my boss, what can i say about my boss except that "The boss is always right" !!!=)

What am I really good at ?!?!

Writing a Story today !! 
Gotta be "creative" !!

There are moments in our lives when we find ourselves at a crossroads...afraid, confused, without a roadmap. I am having that moment right now and i don't know what to do. I thought i am good at writing and could do something big in the near future (which seemed so bright at that time). I was having doubts about my career as a programmer but it is more fun than writing, now that i've understood. Why all of a sudden writing seems so depressing and not the kind of thing i would do for a living. May be its the peer pressure, cause people around me are overwhelmed. I can't take criticism, true, but i didn't know that i can't even handle compliments. I am afraid that I will not be able to write anymore, good or bad doesn't matter. It's been months since i blogged last. Writing used to make me feel good and light-hearted when i poured my heart out there. I didn't care and it didn't matter what the world thinks. 
So this is how it all ends, all the hype, all the praises, all the admiration, all for nothin'. Its hard to say goodbye to writing. I need a ray of hope, somethin' to get me outta my misery, somethin' that would help me believe in myself and that somethin' is a miracle !!!

With Execution dies Humanity !!!

I woke up at 8:30am on a Saturday mornin' with no mood to go to office. Although i love my work, its one of those times when i want to sleep more, I want a holiday and I need a break. After gettin' ready when i went for breakfast, my mom says "Its curfew today, why did you get ready. Didn't didz told you". I was happy as i got the holiday/break that i needed so much, at the same time a lil' annoyed that didz could've let me sleep a bit more. Anyway, "why is there curfew?" was my next question. "Afzal Guru has been hanged" was the answer."who?"

Afzal Guru was a Kashmiri Muslim who was convicted for some attack long time ago and imprisoned since then, i didn't remember so i began to listen what news channels have to say about him. The story went like this : Parliament attack convict Afzal Guru hanged. Curfew imposed in Kashmir. Every time i saw him in his earlier recorded videos bein' carried by police, i thought to myself "he looks so innocent. how can he be the mastermind in carryin' such attack? why did they hang him? did they see him kill someone? what's the story behind all this?" It got me curious "i want to know the truth" so i went back to my room, reached for my laptop and continued to look. Startin' from social networkin' sites (i know other people would have a lot more information about it) then to various news websites. The more i read the more i felt bad and the more it breaks my heart. Many death sentences awaiting capital punishment, so why hurry in the case of Afzal Guru, why now? A spokesman said,“Although many death sentences are awaiting execution in India, only Afzal Guru's death sentence was executed by the government of India to please their vote bank. The fact remains that this decision is purely political in nature because Afzal Guru was not given a fair trial. Many loopholes have been found by the conscious jurists of India as well in the execution process.” Tortured, framed for a crime he didn't commit, not given a fair trial his interviews in Tihar jail make me cry. And now hanged without even informin' his family, his last wish to see his family wasn't fulfilled and neither was the body given back to his family. Is this the so-called democracy, the peace keepin' nation who convict innocent people for crimes they don't commit, imprison and beat them until they confess and then hang them secretly so that no one questions them.

There were protests in other states other than Kashmir. There were protests on the internet and some people without knowing the whole story were happy to see him hanged, clamin' he deserved that. "What the heck? What's wrong with them? How can they be happy about executin' someone? Isn't there a lil' bit of humanity left in 'em? or have they turned into savages?". So why were they against him. Is it because he was a Muslim or a Kashmiri? The truth is hurtful, i began to hate the biased news channels (esp. Times Now) who portrayed Afzal Guru as a national threat, a terrorist and what not. It makes me hate myself when i feel helpless and do nothin' about the atrocities and injustice done. Why somethin' wasn't done back then when he was convicted for a crime he didn't commit? Why do people raise a voice only when the tragedy has already taken place?i pity us(humans). Turnin' a blind eye to evil makes us evil, and evil will suffer on the day of judgement, then justice would be served !!!

To know more about the case and the trail and the victim check out the link Breaking The News by Arundhati Roy