Saturday, May 26, 2012

Long time i know.....had been busy with my final semesters final exam...too many thoughts had to hold back because of the busy days.....wish i had penned down....nothin' on my mind lately...gosh i miss the busy me....Now that my exams are over i don't know what to do further.....but surely will figure somethin' out if my folks/relatives let me decide for me...for once...i think my folks know me the best.....they have always encouraged me and never pushed me into a career that i didn't wanna go for....i wish my dream come true soon...so i can make 'em proud....proud of havin' a daughter!!
so anyway i was just thinkin' about the existence of a girl lately...and it made me think why is it that whenever a girl is born somewhere people there aren't much happy....well not as much as happy when a boy is born.....so what is it that makes 'em sad...May be its because havn' a daughter make parents so worried about everythin'.....her future...her career....everythin' in the way from bein' a kid to a grown up girl....and even if after they've done their job really well raising her...one day, they have to give her away(i mean after her marriage)....and what happens after marriage....well we all know "Life after Marriage"

Being a girl ain't easy....now that i've realized....Competing in the world of chauvinist men is hard.....i always am proud to be a girl but at times i do wish i was boy....only the times when i need to do somethin' boy-ish....like make an impression that i'm not scared of anyone or use my brain more than necessary....i really like it when i come across things where girls outshine boys....be it studies or any other field....What i don't like is the racism....which happens in most of the families....like if a boy does somethin' wrong he would be forgiven and his deeds would be forgotten just like that....but if a girl has done the same thing she would be tortured and humiliated her whole life....even if at times she hasn't done anythin' wrong, still people find a way to excruciate her...also a girl has to learn cooking and other kitchen chores only because she is a girl....while a boy just sits there enjoy his meals and watches TV, play computer games.....day in and day out....I'm grateful that my folks ain't like that....they're cool...may be that's because i don't have a brother...i don't know...and its not that i hold some grudge against boys or somethin' like that....its just that i hope everyone realizes the value of havin' a daughter...treat 'em with respect and care for 'em as much as they care for their sons...

In fact, Islam has designated a special reward for raising them that is not granted for raising sons. Anas  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him reported that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "He who raises two daughters until their puberty will be with me in Paradise like this", and he symbolized the proximity by showing two of his fingers with a slight gap between them." (Muslim)
`Aa’ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her related: "A woman by the name of Jameelah came to me with her two daughters. She asked me for charity but found nothing with me except a date, which I gave her. She divided it between her two daughters and ate nothing herself; then, she got up and left. After this, the Messenger of Allaah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) came, so I narrated this story to him; he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “He who is involved (in the responsibility) of (nurturing) daughters and is generous to them, will have them as a fortification for himself against the Hellfire.” (Al-Bukhaari & Muslim) In another narration of this incident, `Aa’ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her related: "A poor woman came to me with her two daughters. I gave her three dates; she gave each of them a date and was about to eat the third one when one of her daughters asked her for it, so she divided it between her two daughters and ate nothing herself, and I liked what she did. After this, the Messenger of Allaah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) came, so I told him what she did, and he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "Allaah obligated Paradise for her due to this date, and (also) freed her from Hell."(Muslim)
Pay close attention to wording of the following narration: the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “He who is tested by (the guardianship) of daughters….” Why did he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) use the word: “…tested…”? He said it because raising them is a responsibility and a test from Allaah to see how His slave would act: Will he be kind to them? Will he raise them correctly?
The nature of this responsibility was further clarified in other narrations, such as: “If he patiently feeds them and endows them with clothing …" (Ibn Maajah)., and:  “…Provides for them and marries them off…” (At-Tabaraani)., and: “…Properly raises them and fears Allaah in the manner in which he deals with them.” (At-Tirmithi)
This is what is required when dealing with daughters: kindness, which results in Paradise, as the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Whoever Allaah has given two daughters and is kind towards them, will have them as a reason for him to be admitted into Paradise.” And: “Whoever Allaah has given three daughters and he perseveres through raising them, will have them as a shield for him from the Hellfire on the Day of Resurrection.”